first a short background:
me and DH have a baby, she's 2 months old. Some really good friends of ours, lets say Jane and Dave, have been trying to get pregnant for two years now, without luck. Right around the time I gave birth, they had their IVF attempt fail.
We had invited a few friends, including Jane and Dave, to celebrate New year with us. A few weeks ago Dave let us know that they were very sorry, but that Jane just couldn't bring herself to celebrate new year with a baby in the same room, as it would be too painful for her. They thanked us for the invitation, but declined.
Few days later, DH's grandparents heard about this, and offered to babysit for our little tyke for that particular night. That way we could throw the party, and Jane could come without the constant reminder.
We thanked them for the idea, and offered the solution to Dave and Jane. I think Jane thanked me about five times by now. So now our new year plans are back on. Nothing fancy, just dinner with friends at our place.
So here's the question that might be a bit silly: do I clean up the baby stuff? Most of the little stuff is easy enough, but the playpen is a bit of a pain to break down, hide, then put up again. That and I'm not sure if it won't put Jane and Dave in an awkward position, in which they think we're bending over backwards for them. And if I'm completely honest, I'd feel bad 'hiding' the existence of my child.