Also, please note that in no way was I trying to teach this boy a "life lesson." I was doing what I could for him with the resources I had.
I don't think you were trying to do that at all, and I don't think anyone else thinks that. It seems like I caused an unfortunate controversy and misunderstanding by my earlier comment. I really and deeply apologize for that. I was just trying to look at the situation through a different lens - because I have my own background that informs my perspective.
I think all people everywhere, no matter the age, economic status or whatever benefit from unintended growth opportunities all the time. For example, I came from a middle class background and there were plenty of presents. But when I was 15, that first Christmas after my mother died, our family had a big extended family Christmas. Because there were so many people involved, it was decided by the adults that it would be better to do a secret santa kind of gift exchange, instead of having to buy gifts for everyone, which could add up. A cousin of mine drew my name and gave me a makeup brush set.
Because I perceived that the gift seemed less extravagant than some of my other cousins received, I went around sighing all evening and COMPLAINED ABOUT THE GIFT. To this day I am ashamed and embarrassed about my boorish, rude, completely unacceptable behavior. BTW, it turned out to be a cherished, favorite item of mine AND my cousin was nothing but kind, forgiving and gracious when I apologized...which put me to extra shame.
So, I can say that I learned a lesson about the concept of gift giving. The guilt and shame I CONTINUE to feel about it taught me a lesson, that it's not the price of the gift that matters, but rather the fact that someone loves or cares about you enough to give you anything at all.
I guess I was wrong to use that experience to inform my opinion about the charitable gift giving question. But I don't think those "life lessons" are meant only for poor children, or even just children. I've seen adults be just as ungracious as I was.
I'm not even trying to imply that this particular child would be in any way whatsoever ungrateful for the lovely gifts given to him, or anything like the ingrate I was. I was just trying to say that it's the thought that counts, and weeble wobble was kind to give the child what she could, in my opinion. And that maybe someday, when he gets older, he might also feel extra good realizing that a complete stranger cared - the same thing I came to realize myself after MY experience.
In any case, I'm so very sorry to have caused such a misunderstanding. I guess I was over thinking the whole thing and making it more complicated than it was, and instead of giving comfort to the OP I caused stress. I feel terrible. I'm sorry.