This isn’t so much etiquette (wear something appropriate, the best you have), so I thought here would be a good place.
We have a wake to attend tomorrow night, about 3 hours away from home (Afterwards or Sat. morn we are setting off on an 18 hour drive to my hometown—important only because we have yet to pack and such, so time is valuable).
I’m all set—I have my "funeral dress", but SO is a bit tougher and is fashion clueless. He hasn’t had to attend a funeral for a few years, and had better options for clothes back then that haven’t been replaced as they’ve worn out.
Do you think dress khakis and a black striped button down shirt are sufficient? They are his typical work clothes for when clients meetings are scheduled—he lives in jeans and company polos or t-shirts the rest of the time. It took forever to find, but these pants fit him amazingly (try finding a true 29x36 without vanity sizing).
The alternative is that he has two suits, neither of which have properly fitting jackets—one is a bit more tux-like with too-short arms, and the other looks like he’s playing dress up with his overweight dad’s suit rather than one tailored for him. He could wear the pants, though.
One pair are black. Those would work, but we’d have to go buy a shirt tonight, as he doesn’t have one that will work with them (Note that it is hard to fit him; he’s tall and lanky, plus we still have to pack for our trip and have to leave for wake right after work tomorrow—we can’t take more time off, since we have the next week and a half off already. We can technically afford it, but it would be painful). His button-down clashes blacks.
The other pair are grey, slightly too short but not high-waters (they belong with the 'dad' jacket and believe it or not, the suit was supposedly tailored for him. The tailor must have been blind) . The black striped button-down he has will work, but slightly clashes, and may look less formal with the nice pants (it’s hard to explain, but it looks really nice with khakis for business, not so much with wool pants).
What would you suggest he wear? I may be over thinking this, as I’m already frazzled with work and our trip, and worrying about impressions as I’ve not met most of his family that will be in attendance.