MY question is... how are you feeling? I was reading the story waiting to find out if the doctor was able to do anything to help. I hope they could!
I agree with the others that the woman is a busybody. Honestly, even if you *did* have a black eye and a bruised face, that wouldn't mean your husband did it. So *starting* her approach with "you should leave that man!" would be wrong in a huge number of circumstances. And even if he *had* done it, that approach would immediately put you on the defensive. A *much* better approach would be more along the lines of, "Your face looks pretty painful! Did your husband hit you? You should know that that's really not the way a normal relationship goes. Most husband don't hit their wives, and it's not right. Please tell somebody, they'll get you help, honest. You could tell the doctor here when you go in." Or something. I'm not saying this is perfect wording, but women tend to stay with abusers because they think they love him, that he loves her, or because they think it's normal, or they don't know where else to go or what to do. Starting a conversation with "leave him" won't get anywhere.
Thank you for asking, MommyPenguin!
I wanted to give it a day or two to see how things are going before I answer - goodness knows, I don't want to "jinx" anything! I have certainly been wrong before thinking I was getting better...but wasn't.
The doctor put me on a 10-day course of Amoxicillin and three days of Vicodin for pain. Knock on wood, but I am thinking the antibiotics are starting to kick in....it almost seems like things are loosening up a little and instead of pain in my upper/lower jaw I have a massive all-over headache, much like a traditional head cold. Then again, being on a strong pain killer, I can't say whether the pain in the jaw is gone, or if it's just being suppressed from the medicine. But given that the headache is here and the jaw pain isn't coming back immediately after the medicine wears off before the next dose...I'm very hopeful.
I can tell you, though, that it's been a very interesting couple of days on the Vicodin...I have been having vivid dreams in technicolor that are most entertaining...last night I dreamed that we received a very
large shipment of pure green catnip...and the kitties were most
Don't ask me why.
I'm looking forward to getting off the Vicodin, though. I could live without the constant dizzy feeling and nausea.
Me and anything stronger than aspirin don't get along well.
I hope this isn't TMI, but I did want to let anyone know who is interested that going to the hospital was probably for the best, despite the weirdness I encountered in the waiting area.
If I had been a little more clear headed (ahem) at the time, I might have explained to the woman that her approach to "helping" a suspected abuse victim was anything but helpful. In the most polite terms imaginable, of course.
If, God forbid, I need to go back because this infection isn't done yet (special Rosary being said by me for this purpose), I thank everyone for your feedback - I think I have a better idea now of how to handle it. Not that I want to. I don't even want my worst enemy to go through that.