To me it sounds like she hits ignore when you call, and by telling a mutual friend who then confronted her about it, Sadie was awkwardly put on the spot to then call you. Even if we want to try to look at it as it was an accidental setting, which it doesn't sound like to me, it doesn't change that Sadie doesn't call you back either. For some reason Sadie isn't interested in talking to you as much as you are to her, and if she feels smothered, complaining to another friend who then intervened probably didn't help. Is there a reason you didn't bring the one ring issue up to her directly,like when you heard her cell ringing? I actually wasn't complaining to Clara. I figured she had the same experience as I had with the one ring and then voice mail. The only reason the subject came up was because at dinner on Christmas I told Clara that I called Sadie to say Merry Christmas and said it's hard to reach her because her cell only rings once then goes to voice mail. This is when Clara said this isn't her experience with Sadie's cell. It rings and rings until answered or eventually goes to voice mail. It actually never occurred to me that I might be blocked until the next day.
Either way I agree Is wait for her to make next call.
I'm sure she doesn't feel smothered. She used to be the one initiating most calls. I would call her about things, but not a lot.
Like I said, I need to take care of myself. One of my new years resolutions is to do that.
Right, but once Clara clarified it was not her experience, the next time it happened you still called Clara to again report this was happening, who then called Sadie immediately after she likely hit ignore on your call, and Clara called instead, chatted her up, and then said you were looking for her. From OP:Yesterday I was talking to Clara, telling her that I couldn't reach Sadie to say Merry Christmas because her phone goes directly to voice mail. Clara was surprised to hear that it rings only once because when she calls Sadie at that number it rings several times until she answers or eventually goes to voice mail.
When I tried to call Sadie this morning I got the one ring and voice mail. I called Clara and she tried calling Sadie. Clara got through after a couple of rings and they had a long conversation.
Even if Sadie hit ignore, she certainly wasn't going to tell Clara that - she was on the spot and then had to call you.
I know you said Sadie used to call a lot etc. People do change. Sometimes they get busy and have less time to devote to calls than they used to. I don't think that she's blocked your number but it does sound like she has less time to chat and simply hits ignore.
I agree that calling her way less, if at all, is a good move toward taking care of yourself going forward. Devote your time to people who value it.