Hello again, e-hellions!
I spoke with the organizer the other day to let her know of the date and time I was now planning for the dinner and making sure that worked with her schedule. I also mentioned that I would not be including the bully. She did ask what had happend, and I felt comfortale enough to tell her (remind her) that I'm distancing myself as I don't want to be bullied by her any longer - especially on my birthday. She said she understood and apologized for having included her in the first place and also said that she thought things were much better. I didn't ask why she thought that, as it's really not important. But long story short, the dinner is in place and it will be bully free! Thank you all so much for your input as it has really helped me to say what I needed to say!
Oddly enough, I just got a personal message on facebook from the bully. She wrote, "Hey just dropping by to see how you all are doing? I hope you had a very merry Christmas. And Happy New Year....How's things?"
Quite honestly I was shocked that she sent me a message as it came totally out of the blue. And I truly feel that everything she does has an ulterior motive - though, in this case, I can't imagine what she's up to.
I didn't know what to say and didn't really want to respond, but wrote, "Thanks for checking in. We're all doing well. Glad the holidays are over. Looking forward to a new year!"
I didn't want to ask her about herself or her family, as frankly, I don't care to ask/know. I don't want some drawn out conversation of being phony and friendly.
Her response was, "I hear ya, I feel like I haven't seen you in forever"
And I left it at that. Anything that needs to be said to her is not meant to be said over facebook.
Thank you for letting me get that off my chest, e-hell! Whew!