Unwanted guest invited to gathering

[zyrs]

I think there needs to be a Shiny Spine Theme Song   that all E-hellions can hum to themselves when they get the upper hand over the rude and uncouth

I hum one of these a lot when good things happen. Final Fantasy Victory theme

[Redsoil]

Okay - first draft of the EHell Shiny Spine song (to the tune of "We are the Champions" chorus)

We are the Hellions, my friend...
With spines strong and shiny, 'til the end
We are the Hellions, no rudeness or yelling,
No time for users
'Cause we are the Hellions... staying strong!

[EnoughAlready22]

Okay - first draft of the EHell Shiny Spine song (to the tune of "We are the Champions" chorus)

We are the Hellions, my friend...
With spines strong and shiny, 'til the end
We are the Hellions, no rudeness or yelling,
No time for users
'Cause we are the Hellions... staying strong!

Great job!  And yes I sat at my desk singing along in my head.

[Twik]

Heck, I had my hands up, swaying back and forth in time to the music in my head.

... um, why is everyone in the office staring at me?

[PastryGoddess]

I love it when a plan comes together

[Redsoil]

*snerk* 

[fnygrl]

Okay - first draft of the EHell Shiny Spine song (to the tune of "We are the Champions" chorus)

We are the Hellions, my friend...
With spines strong and shiny, 'til the end
We are the Hellions, no rudeness or yelling,
No time for users
'Cause we are the Hellions... staying strong!

It is PERFECT and just what my head needed! 

[PastryGoddess]

Is head banging allowed in private

[fnygrl]

Is head banging allowed in private

I hope so, because I'm doing it!    (Actually, I'm trying NOT to care what other people think - so perhaps my answer should be "WHO CARES?!") 

[fnygrl]

Hello, e-hellions!

A bit of an update:

Our neighbor, the one with whom I went out to lunch with and the bully seemed to have a problem with the whole notion of our being friends, had a party for, "the big game" this past Sunday.  The bully and her family were not invited.  The neigbor who had the party made a point of telling me that she was NOT included and wouldn't be there.  She said at one point in the evening that she and other people at the party made bets on how quickly it would be before the bully and her family were at the door.  Thankfully they never showed.

The neighbor's daughter, who is fifteen, was telling me that the bully tries to bully her and pick fights with her!  How awful for a grown woman to do that to a child!

Now, the bully has called my cell phone twice today and called the neighbor who had the party, too.  Both of us are ignoring her calls and she is not leaving messages.  And you know what?  I'm not all bothered and shaken up by it, as I would have been in the past. 

Because of your help, e-hellion friends, I'm getting better!  THANK YOU!  (I hope it lasts if I see her in person!)

[fnygrl]

So the bully just sent me a facebook message saying:

"Hey not sure if you're up to it but I was wondering if you had a few minutes to chat. I've been bothered about something and I can't get it off my mind. I tried calling you earlier but I figured you were just busy with the kids. If you can please give me a ring. Thanks"

I'm going to ignore it - at least for now.  If I do respond, I'll probably say I've been busy.  But why does she feel she needs to talk to me about something that's bothering her (I'm assuming about me)?  And I'm to ease her mind?  I don't think so.

If you have any additional advice or another way to handle this, I'm all ears.

Thank you

[PastryGoddess]

So the bully just sent me a facebook message saying:

"Hey not sure if you're up to it but I was wondering if you had a few minutes to chat. I've been bothered about something and I can't get it off my mind. I tried calling you earlier but I figured you were just busy with the kids. If you can please give me a ring. Thanks"

I'm going to ignore it - at least for now.  If I do respond, I'll probably say I've been busy.  But why does she feel she needs to talk to me about something that's bothering her (I'm assuming about me)?  And I'm to ease her mind?  I don't think so.

If you have any additional advice or another way to handle this, I'm all ears.

Thank you

Nope just ignore, ignore, ignore.  You are doing great

[WillyNilly]

I'd ignore for now.  Maybe forever.  But if you do reply, at least give it a day or so, and then something vague "yeah been busy, hope all is resolved!" and that's that.  I wouldn't speak to her on the phone though.  I think ignoring is the best thing, but because she is your neighbor I understand if you don't want to total cut direct.

(I'm betting whats bugging her is she knows your other neighbor had a party and that you and several others went and she is hurt she wasn't invited.)

[fnygrl]

Nope just ignore, ignore, ignore.  You are doing great

Thank you, PastryGoddess    Affirmations are always helpful and a good reminder!

[fnygrl]

I'd ignore for now.  Maybe forever.  But if you do reply, at least give it a day or so, and then something vague "yeah been busy, hope all is resolved!" and that's that.  I wouldn't speak to her on the phone though.  I think ignoring is the best thing, but because she is your neighbor I understand if you don't want to total cut direct.

(I'm betting whats bugging her is she knows your other neighbor had a party and that you and several others went and she is hurt she wasn't invited.)

I love the, "Hope all is resolved"!  That's perfect!

True about not wanting to cut direct because we're neighbors.  I'm fine with a wave hello or a general facebook post - which she sent me last week and I acknowledged.  But I'm done reaching out to her or giving her the opportunity to attact me. 

Thank you!!