A bit of an update:
Our neighbor, the one with whom I went out to lunch with and the bully seemed to have a problem with the whole notion of our being friends, had a party for, "the big game" this past Sunday. The bully and her family were not invited. The neigbor who had the party made a point of telling me that she was NOT included and wouldn't be there. She said at one point in the evening that she and other people at the party made bets on how quickly it would be before the bully and her family were at the door. Thankfully they never showed.
The neighbor's daughter, who is fifteen, was telling me that the bully tries to bully her and pick fights with her! How awful for a grown woman to do that to a child!
Now, the bully has called my cell phone twice today and called the neighbor who had the party, too. Both of us are ignoring her calls and she is not leaving messages. And you know what? I'm not all bothered and shaken up by it, as I would have been in the past.
Because of your help, e-hellion friends, I'm getting better! THANK YOU! (I hope it lasts if I see her in person!)