My boyfriend has a friend who has been around way, way longer than me, so I feel like I have no right saying anything. They have known each other since they were in elementary school, and they are very close. However, I feel at times that my boyfriend is the "friend" and his friend takes him for granted. None of my business, but still frustrating.
They used to be roommates, and when my boyfriend moved out to move in with me last summer, he left his computer. His friend and his wife do not handle their money well, are in debt, and needed some way to pay the bills. My boyfriend being the gracious, unselfish friend he is told them to keep the computer and that they owed him 1000$ when they got on their feet. Wellllll the wife got a promotion, and they spend money on frivilous things such as game systems and dvd's. They say they can't afford yet to pay my boyfriend back, but they promise they will!
"Friend" also always cancels plans at the last minute. Over one of the holidays we had to go out of town to visit my family, and cut our trip very short in order to get back home so we could celebrate with friend. So boyfriend calls friend on the way home, can't get ahold of him. Friend finally calls back when we are 45 minutes away from town, and says that he can't leave his mom's house, she is mad that he was going to leave on said holiday. So we cut plans short with MY family, three hours out of town, to come back to spend time with friend, who waits until we are almost home to tell us that he can't make it. I was fuming. The next day we were to celebrate the holiday with my boyfriends family, Friend, and Wife. We were planning on riding together...long story short, Friend backs out ten minutes AFTER we were supposed to be there. THIS HAPPENS ALL THE TIME.
I'm so frustrated. It's none of my business, and I NEVER say anything to my boyfriend, except to agree with him when he gets upset. But he keeps letting it happen again. I'm going crazy.
Sorry, I had to get it off my chest. I think it's bad etiquette to always cancel and be late and to not repay debts.