My DH is a guy who talks to himself and/or to his computer. Sometimes it seems to me that he's talking to himself, but in reality it turns out that he was talking to me -- and then he's annoyed that I "ignored" him. Other times, I think that he's talking to me but it turns out he wasn't, so when I respond he's annoyed because he wasn't talking to me and I've interrupted his train of thought. I feel like I can't win! Is there anyone else who has this problem, and if so, have you found anything that helps?
1) Yes, I have an eerily similar problem.
2) Not really. What's worked is short term, I mean.
My husband interrupts what I'm doing to talk to himself. So, when my concentration is broken and I responds with, "Huh? Wuh?" He'll say, "Oh, nothing I was just..." Then leave the sentence hanging as he does a lot. I wait a few beats because I know
he's not going to finish his sentence (a pattern) though he's told me off for trying to hurry him when I've tried to prompt him (can't win!). So, when I've said, "Just what?" in this instance he'll say, "Oh, I was just talking to myself, I'm going to do X, Y and Z..." and trails off again. I asked, "Can you please not interrupt me just to talk to yourself?" He'll agree and apologise then do the same dingdangity thing again next time! Grrr!
Other times, we can be sat having breakfast. He'll be on the iPad, I'll be reading my Kindle. He's not blind or stupid so he can see I'm reading. He'll start reading stuff out to me, thereby interrupting my quiet reading. I asked, "Do you really want me to know what you're reading or do you just want to read aloud?" He said he wanted to read aloud so I handed him my Kindle and said, "Can you please read my book to me?" He did so. However, he still reads things out when I'm doing some quiet reading! Drives me barmy!
I feel your frustration OP, I really do. I wish I could help (((hug)))
*Edited because I can't eat chocolate and type at the same time.