My sister and I are planning to throw a baby shower for a close family friend. This is friend's first baby.
Important note #1: Sister and I do not live in the town where we grew up. I live 3 hours away and sister lives 8-9 hours away. FF still lives in hometown. We are planning to return to hometown for the weekend to host the shower.
Over the holidays, sister and I went to lunch with FF to plan shower basics, including the date. We asked her who she wanted invited, etc. and we all whipped out our calendars and hashed out a date that worked for everyone. The date is about 5 weeks before FF is due.
Today, FF contacted sister and I and said she'd been telling people to "save the date". She then reported that she told several people the date and they all balked, saying that that was too close to her due date and that she'll be uncomfortable, etc. So FF suggested moving the date of her shower earlier. She also said it was okay if we couldn't.
Frankly, it's pretty difficult to move the date earlier. Sister and I will be out of the country (together) for about a week, three weeks before the shower as it is set now. I am a physician and book patients pretty far in advance and I've already reserved the Friday before the shower for travel.
Sister and I are torn. While I want to be sensitive to FF's needs, it's sincerely difficult for us to move the shower. FF's pregnancy has been going smoothly.
My shower was 5 weeks before I delivered and I was hot (it was June), but I don't remember being an invalid or THAT uncomfortable at my shower. I quite enjoyed it. I know everyone is different.
Thoughts? Would it be horribly rude to say "I'm so sorry, we're going to have to stick with our original date"? Clearly, some of the people who will be invited to the shower will have a problem with that.