Well, you don't just have to wait and wonder. You can contact the parents, either by phone (my preference) or email.
That's what I do whenever I don't get rsvp's. Which is often - it's a modern phenomenon, unfortunately.
Agreed. If you really need to know, just contact the households for confirmation.
I acknowledge a host shouldn't have
to do this, because people should reply; but when people don't
reply, it's such a simple thing for the host to do (usually), and if they really need an exact head count, contacting the guests to ask will save the host a lot of angst.
To avoid getting into a discussion about whether the 12-13 year old can RSVP for themselves--just say you're calling to confirm
, because you need to be absolutely certain as to the final number. You can talk to either the girl or the parent, whoever answers the phone--if someone says yes at this point and then doesn't show, I think they are being either rude or clueless.