I am currently single. Unlike some of my other single friends, I've always looked at it as if/when the right person comes along, great. Until then, I'm going to enjoy my life and not let my 'singlehood' stop me from going out, traveling, living life. I have a 'friend' whose become recently single. I get that it's hard for some people to be alone. She seems to be one of those people, obsessed with finding a new relationship. She's tried online dating this year but hasn't had a lot of luck. Then a few month's ago, she got involved with a friend of her neighbor's that was couch surfing. This individual (let's call him John), is frankly a complete loser.
Unemployed, in his late 30's, an alcoholic, the first night she brought him around, we got to hear tales of how he couldn't go to his home state because people there were hunting for him. He told us (it was at a dinner of about 10 people) how he slept with his best friend's wife while he was staying with them and then couldn't understand why people were completely disgusted. When my friend excused herself to go to the restroom, he then told several people that my friend was an 'okay piece of butt, at least until something else came along.' He then got completely wasted and had to be helped into her car. Yes, one of the people there later told my friend what he said.
Since then they have gotten into two major altercations, the last one in the middle of the night, which resulted in him trashing her house (he was staying the night) while her 5 year old daughter was there and last I heard neighbor had gotten sick of John freeloading and threw him out. I hadn't heard anything else about him since. This brings us to New Year's Eve....
Friend's ex-husband had visitation with their daughter that night. This was the first NYE since her daughter was born (she's 5), that friend was going to go out for New Year's. The entire month of December friend kept bringing up us going out for NYE. Even last Sunday, friend kept talking about us going downtown to ring in the New Year's. I turned down invites from other friends because we were suppose to be going out. On New Year's Eve day, about 6:00pm, I call friend to see what time she was heading over so I could be ready. She then informs me that she's going to another party and maybe we can get together after the party was over.
I was completely stunned silent. I think I sputtered something about it would have been nice to know prior to the day of, and was she even going to tell me or just not show up and then I hung up. I tried to make other plans but by that point, most everyone else had already left to go downtown and I didn't relish the though of going downtown alone to try to find them in a big crowd so I ended up staying home. On New Year's Day I see pictures on Facebook that she was with this guy.
Needless to say, I'm beyond angry. If that is the type of person you want to hang out with, that's certainly her prerogative. However, I ended up spending New Year's at home alone because of it. Problem is I have to see her tonight and I'm really not sure how to handle. I don't want to cause a scene, but at the same token, I don't want to act like everything is hunky-dory. So wise e-hellions, how would handle tonight?