One of my very good friends found out just recently she's pregnant. She is married, it doesn't seem like a good marriage to me to be quite honest but she's in Michigan and I'm in Illinois. She met this guy through a Christian dating site, and about 1 month later they were married in Las Vegas. They had planned a BWW but had just bought a house and didn't want to live in sin together.
About 2 weeks after they got married the controlling behavior started, now this is just what I heard from her and her mom and I know there's two sides to every story. But he wouldn't let her visit her parents, he told her that her church was wrong and his was the only right one, she didn't know how to pray, etc...he's very, very religious.
Anyway, they have just had to declare bankruptcy due to medical bills, the new house they had build and now can't afford, and various other problems. So they are now living with his mom, his father passed away a few months ago. Here is an email I just got from her, it's verbatim.
doing well. starting to feel baby move a little. I haven't registered yet but we'll still send you an invite so that you know.
sure you can forward the list even tho we live with his mom and the baby won't have it's own room. i can't stand living here. i thought I'd be able to but they all drive me crazy. plus they all smoke--not around around me but i can still smell it!! plus i hate having to answer to his mom. i guess it's because i'm pregnant but she always wants to know where i'm going, etc. i'm not use to answering to people!! i really want an apartment, but i don't want anyone offended. plus when the baby comes, i'd much rather have my own mother help me--plus she doesn't smell like cigerettes
sorry i had to vent!!!
talk at ya later
I am really worried about her, I have never met her husband and I am thinking of doing a surprise visit up there to see how she's really doing. Does this sound like a good idea? We have been friends since 3rd grade!! How do I tactfully tell her that this isn't a good environment for her or the baby, or do I keep my big fat nose out of it?