Joe does have a history of being deceptive, two-faced, whatever one wants to call it – but the incidences I’m aware of happened a long time ago (over 10 yrs). So, (as mentioned) maybe I allowed those incidences to rear their ugly heads and concluded “here we go again”.
Just limiting it to this incident, the one who surprised me was Bob because I’m closer to him communicate with him more regularly, and had never had a problem. It could have been a “she talked my ear off” kind of remark from Joe (such as the example caz gave) and Bob thought it was amusing and saw nothing wrong with mentioning it to me. Now that I think about it, I can't recall any family member ever having a problem with Bob.
Joe = very funny, sharp wit, excellent recall in that he can cite details of childhood incidents. If Joe had been in my home instead of on the phone, we would have been howling on the floor. But, as I said, he can be deceptive.
Bob = older, more serious, highly-respected, usually will go to great lengths not to hurt someone's feelings and will go out of his way to help people in any way he can.