How Extroverts and Introverts Experience the Holidays

[bopper]

http://www.livebetteramerica.com/healthy-living/health/well-being/articles/Introverts-vs-extroverts?nicam1=CONTENT_PPC&nichn1=%20OUTBRAIN&nipkw1={ad_Title}&niseg1=TDCORE_LBA&ersc=16670

[ilrag]

As a pretty extreme extrovert I have to say none of the thoughts attributed to extroverts have every crossed my mind.

[mbbored]

And as an introvert, I wouldn't claim any of their so-called introvert thoughts.

[ilrag]

 

[CakeBeret]

And as a dedicated introvert, only one of those statements applied to me. “Ah, the safe harbor of the kitchen! Someone has to cut the cheesecake, right? Tomorrow I’ll have the house all to myself, plus it’ll be clean.”

My holiday party thoughts generally consist of "I wonder how long I can hide out in the bathroom without anyone noticing" and "Gah, I can't even think with all these noise and all these people. Why is my bubble being invaded? Only forty-seven minutes until I can leave."

[siamesecat2965]

I'm also an introvert, but the only one I can relate to is the dinner party, and being able to carry on a nice conversation.

[Betelnut]

I'm an extrovert--which means that being with people energizes me. 
I know an introvert--which means that being with people tires him.

Both of us enjoy parties, talking to people, laughing.  My friend, the introvert, can have the whole crowd laughing, facilitates meetings with flair, and is quite the raconteur.  He's just exhausted afterwards and needs down time.

I think there is too much made of the ex/introvert "dichotomy."  We are INDIVIDUALS, not labels.

[workerbee]

I agree 100% with Betelnut. I'm an introvert, but I certainly enjoy parties and socializing, and can easily hold my own. Plenty of people have expressed surprise when they find out I'm not classified as an extrovert on the MBTI.

At the same time, I really, really enjoy my alone time, never get bored when I'm by myself, and I do need time to recharge after a big party.

I think a lot of those thoughts, while funny to read, really miss the boat, and just feed into the misconceptions about introverts vs. extroverts.

[WillyNilly]

I'm an extrovert--which means that being with people energizes me. 
I know an introvert--which means that being with people tires him.

Both of us enjoy parties, talking to people, laughing.  My friend, the introvert, can have the whole crowd laughing, facilitates meetings with flair, and is quite the raconteur.  He's just exhausted afterwards and needs down time.

I think there is too much made of the ex/introvert "dichotomy."  We are INDIVIDUALS, not labels.

Thank you.  All too often I see the words "introvert" and "extrovert" used almost as weapons or walls to hide behind.  People are people and personalities are full of nuance.  And there are plenty of people are neither and/or both introvert and extrovert depending on all sorts of factors such as who they are with, how they are feeling, where they are, what they are doing etc.


And I thought that article was written with a clear and nasty bias against extroverts.

[blue2000]

I'm an extrovert--which means that being with people energizes me. 
I know an introvert--which means that being with people tires him.

Both of us enjoy parties, talking to people, laughing.  My friend, the introvert, can have the whole crowd laughing, facilitates meetings with flair, and is quite the raconteur.  He's just exhausted afterwards and needs down time.

I think there is too much made of the ex/introvert "dichotomy."  We are INDIVIDUALS, not labels.

Thank you.  All too often I see the words "introvert" and "extrovert" used almost as weapons or walls to hide behind.  People are people and personalities are full of nuance.  And there are plenty of people are neither and/or both introvert and extrovert depending on all sorts of factors such as who they are with, how they are feeling, where they are, what they are doing etc.


And I thought that article was written with a clear and nasty bias against extroverts.

LOL! And I thought they were pretty hard on introverts!

I have to agree that their statements seem very stereotypical and... cartoonish. I am a serious introvert, but parties are not automatically off my list. Nor is chatting (I talk way too much sometimes. Can you tell? )

I've also gone to events with an extrovert, and it isn't a lot of fun because he gets bored easily! I'm the one chatting a mile a minute and he's the one tugging on my arm because he wants to leave.

[Firecat]

Definitely stereotypical, and therefore not particularly representative. But I will admit that I could relate to the work party one - I like my coworkers, but 40 hours a week is enough...

I could also relate to the "safe harbor of the kitchen" thought, only because I've found I do better at larger gatherings if I can occasionally retreat somewhere quieter for a few minutes. At particularly noisy parties, I can sometimes feel physically sore from the noise afterwards, and a few minutes of quiet is very restorative.

[Cat-Fu]

I'm an extrovert--which means that being with people energizes me. 
I know an introvert--which means that being with people tires him.

Both of us enjoy parties, talking to people, laughing.  My friend, the introvert, can have the whole crowd laughing, facilitates meetings with flair, and is quite the raconteur.  He's just exhausted afterwards and needs down time.

I think there is too much made of the ex/introvert "dichotomy."  We are INDIVIDUALS, not labels.

Thank you.  All too often I see the words "introvert" and "extrovert" used almost as weapons or walls to hide behind.  People are people and personalities are full of nuance.  And there are plenty of people are neither and/or both introvert and extrovert depending on all sorts of factors such as who they are with, how they are feeling, where they are, what they are doing etc.


And I thought that article was written with a clear and nasty bias against extroverts.

LOL! And I thought they were pretty hard on introverts!

I have to agree that their statements seem very stereotypical and... cartoonish. I am a serious introvert, but parties are not automatically off my list. Nor is chatting (I talk way too much sometimes. Can you tell? )

I've also gone to events with an extrovert, and it isn't a lot of fun because he gets bored easily! I'm the one chatting a mile a minute and he's the one tugging on my arm because he wants to leave.

I agree that it was hard (and pretty blatantly wrong) on both sides. I hardly think that all extroverts are crazy party animals and all introverts are shy misanthropes. 

[Firecat]

I'm an extrovert--which means that being with people energizes me. 
I know an introvert--which means that being with people tires him.

Both of us enjoy parties, talking to people, laughing.  My friend, the introvert, can have the whole crowd laughing, facilitates meetings with flair, and is quite the raconteur.  He's just exhausted afterwards and needs down time.

I think there is too much made of the ex/introvert "dichotomy."  We are INDIVIDUALS, not labels.

Thank you.  All too often I see the words "introvert" and "extrovert" used almost as weapons or walls to hide behind.  People are people and personalities are full of nuance.  And there are plenty of people are neither and/or both introvert and extrovert depending on all sorts of factors such as who they are with, how they are feeling, where they are, what they are doing etc.


And I thought that article was written with a clear and nasty bias against extroverts.

LOL! And I thought they were pretty hard on introverts!

I have to agree that their statements seem very stereotypical and... cartoonish. I am a serious introvert, but parties are not automatically off my list. Nor is chatting (I talk way too much sometimes. Can you tell? )

I've also gone to events with an extrovert, and it isn't a lot of fun because he gets bored easily! I'm the one chatting a mile a minute and he's the one tugging on my arm because he wants to leave.

I agree that it was hard (and pretty blatantly wrong) on both sides. I hardly think that all extroverts are crazy party animals and all introverts are shy misanthropes. 

Well...as an introvert...I can say that I'm not shy...and only somewhat misanthropic...