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Twitter and Perceived Privacy
« on: January 03, 2013, 12:31:57 PM »
I use Lists on Twitter to view seperate groups of people - say PastaLovers, IRLFriends etc

A now former friend a while back had been posting on Twitter in an open timeline using a hashtag of say #peanut30 one week then #peanut29 the next and over a number of weeks you notice the trend and other comments about hormones/tiredness, so in the course of a separate conversation over email I congratulated her.

This was met by accusations of stalking and/or someone telling me she was pregnant. I explained that this had not been the case, and that it was a simple deduction based on her timeline comments on Twitter.

Was I wrong to congratulate her? The comments were in the public domain, and glaringly obvious. Should I have just played dumb? Is there a perception on privacy associated with Twitter that I am not aware of?
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Re: Twitter and Perceived Privacy
« Reply #1 on: January 03, 2013, 12:35:23 PM »
Nope. You were fine. She was rude.
 
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Re: Twitter and Perceived Privacy
« Reply #2 on: January 03, 2013, 12:38:33 PM »
I think she is being a bit ridiculous, and definitely overreacted. It's silly to publicly post obvious statements then accuse someone of "stalking" when they comment on it.

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Re: Twitter and Perceived Privacy
« Reply #3 on: January 03, 2013, 01:13:44 PM »
Well, on one hand, it's a bit silly to expect public posts not to be read. On the other hand, she didn't explicitly say she was pregnant, and it is a bit weird to comment on what was (albeit easily) deduced, especially since you aren't that close. If she wanted you to comment on her pregnancy, she probably would have told you she was pregnant. (And FTR I do think it's a bit ridiculous to vaguebook on twitter about pregnancy.)
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Re: Twitter and Perceived Privacy
« Reply #4 on: January 03, 2013, 01:35:30 PM »
Twitter? Privacy?

The whole point of Twitter is that it is not private.

If I saw the same sort of countdown, I'd assume it was the poster's way of informing people she was pregnant.

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Re: Twitter and Perceived Privacy
« Reply #5 on: January 03, 2013, 01:55:15 PM »
Personally, I would never congratulate someone on being pregnant unless she specifically and clearly tells me that she is indeed expecting a child. I do think that this friend should realize that people will probably figure out what her hashtag means and I think she over-reacted, but this is just another example of why I wouldn't congratulate someone unless explicitly told.

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Re: Twitter and Perceived Privacy
« Reply #6 on: January 04, 2013, 12:32:56 AM »

When you've reached the point of tweeting about your pregnancy I don't think it is reasonable or even vaguely sane to expect that people will regard the fact of your pregnancy as a private matter.

If she is posting veiled tweets about a countdown, plus comments about hormones/tiredness, and is not pregnant, then she should either be less vague in her tweets, or stop posting cryptic comments.

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Re: Twitter and Perceived Privacy
« Reply #7 on: January 04, 2013, 03:36:54 AM »
I'm with Cat-Fu and Dorrie. I've always followed the rule that one should not acknowledge or ask about a pregnancy until the expectant mother (or perhaps father) explicitly lets you know that she's expecting.

What you share is what you share, be it in person or online. No issue there. However, I think it's risky to comment on things that you aren't explicitly told.