I hadn't realized that the mom had gone public with this list, including the full name and general location of her son.
That poor kid! I wouldn't consider the part-time use of an iPhone to be sufficient compensation for that kind of public humiliation.
I think what the mother is, is completely and utterly lacking is diplomacy and tact.
The rules themselves aren't that outrageous. But they're phrased like she thinks her son is an ill-mannered barbarian who can't be trusted with an iPhone without an 18-point rule list and public humiliation, and if she doesn't oversee his every move, he's going to end up texting pictures of his junk to everyone he knows. And then she puts on a road show to display how absolutely wonderful a parent she is to have done this.
The same rules, presented in a sit-down conversation with the kid, with more of a "I know you're a sensible kid, but I want to make sure we're clear on this, because it's easy to get sucked in to using it that much" sense would have been much more reasonable. Or, for that matter, if she doesn't think her kid is capable of using an iPhone responsibly, how about not giving him an iPhone and waiting a few years until he's mature enough to handle it.