Heh, heh. You guys are making me laugh! No we're not JW, just protestant. But there are varying degrees of liberalism/fundamentalism here as there are in basically every group on earth. I try to be moderate and inclusive as a rule (I'm sure some would call me too permissive, others too uptight. Bah humbug to both...)
The birthday party was declined (the night before) because G's mother felt she was being too social, not taking care of her family responsibilities, not spending enough time in her ministry at church. I respected her decision and took it in stride. DD was disappointed but we had 11 other people to have fun with.
This time G was the sole connection, the lynch pin of the entire operation. This was NOT cool.
The con is over for DD, cut 1 day short because we're too exhausted from driving. She had a good time on the 2 days she attended. Next year she will be driving herself. "Yee Haw!!!" I wonder if G will be there...
Thank you wise posters for the marvelous input!!! You've given me a lot to mull over.