I don't want to threadjack but I have a question for those of you who have cut off the gift train to ungrateful young relatives.
Did you tell them you would not be sending any more gifts? Just stop sending them & wait for them to notice?
I'm thinking it's time to stop sending gifts to the great nephews/nieces because over the years (16 for the oldest) I have never once heard a thank you from any of them. Maybe I'm just turning into a cranky old female dog but I'm tired of it.
My only problem is I don't know the polite way to say "No Gifts For You!"
ETA: My apologies to Seinfeld for messing with his line.
I stopped sending gifts to my nieces and nephew after years of never hearing a peep out of them about the gifts. I've never heard anything about it, at all, ever, and whenever I've seen them since they've been perfectly pleasant to me. I, too, wondered if there would be fallout or comments, but there wasn't, thank goodness. And even though at the time I kind of wanted to be pointed about it, I finally decided that stopping the gifts was really for my
peace of mind, and I didn't need to involve them at all. My line I had prepared in case anyone said anything was a startled, "Oh, I didn't realize you still wanted/enjoyed them, I never heard anything about them." Because, you know, they wouldn't literally have to say the words "thank you," if they'd ever even mentioned
using the gifts in a positive way to me.