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Re: What do you expect when dining out?
« Reply #60 on: January 11, 2013, 07:49:43 PM »
I got some advice from a friend on a related issue once, in dealing with clothes shopping and overly helpful sales associates - I personally *hate* being asked if I need help finding something.  But the advice I got was to say, politely, "No, thanks for asking, but it's just so hard for me to concentrate if someone else is working with me.  I'll find you if I need anything, ok?"  Could be modified for waitstaff:  "Thanks for asking, but I find it so hard to concentrate with people dropping by to check on me.  Can you come back in 20-30min with the dessert menu?"  Simple, polite, indicates that you know they're doing their job and it's just a bit overwhelming.


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Re: What do you expect when dining out?
« Reply #61 on: January 11, 2013, 09:57:33 PM »
The best service I ever had was with a server who could either read people very well, or was not very good at their job!  Haha, that makes no sense, but I'll explain:
I like to be left alone at a restaurant.  I like to eat my food and leave.  I don't like small talk, especially with strangers, and I'm not huge on dinner conversation in restaurants - I have social anxiety issues and prefer to have my conversations in private places.

We had a waiter who was polite, but not overly friendly, did not make small talk, and was very efficient.  He took our orders, refilled our drinks and brought extra napkins with the food (so we didn't have to ask), left us to eat for a few minutes, and brought our check.  No nonsense.  I loved it.  I left a $20 tip (probably 80%).  I never saw him again.  I told this story to my sister, who has a lot of serving experience, and she said most people would find him to be an awful waiter.  He made no attempt to be "friendly," converse with us, and many people would have complained about his "attitude." I hope he was just able to read us well instead of treating everyone like that.


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Re: What do you expect when dining out?
« Reply #62 on: January 12, 2013, 09:47:21 AM »
Apart from cruise ships, we haven't had much problem with overly-attentive servers. 

However, it slightly irks me when a server squats down to present the specials.  This means that his face is at the same level as the seated diners.  I can understand this if the place is very noisy but, in a quiet restaurant, this seems a bit intrusive.