My sister has never been responsible financially. Money has been lent in the past, and never paid back. (No more lending from me!) Anyways...
4 days before Christmas, she ran into having her car repaired. Hey, it happens. She then started posting on FB that no one would get much for Christmas this year. (as usual, she hasn't done any shopping yet, but I digress) She has a tendency to post such info year after year as something always seems to happen at the last minute.
I had finally had it, and wrote back privately, and politely, that I wish she wouldn't post things like that as it makes people feel guilty for receiving anything from her. I told her, just do what you can, as it is the thought that counts, not the amount. She seemed to understand how I and others felt.
On Christmas day, we have the family gathering. Myself, my two adult daughters, granddaughter, son-in-law, and younger daughter's boyfriend, as well as my sister are opening gifts. My granddaughter received a lovely toy that I know she had purchased in November and all was good. Then, myself, and each couple, received IOU's for a gift certificate to a specific restaurant, saying we would receive them on 1/4/13.
My daughter, son-in-law, and granddaughter were over for dinner last night. My daughter mentioned the gift certificate. I told her to just wait and see and in my head, I'm saying, none of us will ever see it. In the meantime, my sister posted how she went to the beach and treated herself to lunch, etc.
So, after this long story, my question is, how do I tell my sister without offending her good intentions, that it is better to not do, then to promise something and never come through?