You are telling me you wouldn't be upset? I am telling you I would not be upset to not receive a gift for me or for my child. I would be upset if there were bad blood or something, but if I were the grandma I would be offended and a little disgusted if I were "called out" for not giving a gift. Given the number of people she apparently buys for, what would the value of this gift be anyway? To me, yes, you are putting way to much importance on a gift.
Jenny, if your post had been:
I'm afraid I might have done something to upset GM because we did not receive a gift for baby, how do I address it?
I think most of us would understand that you are upset that a gift wasn't sent because it implies there could be a rift that you didn't know existed.
But some of your posts seem to imply it is the lack of gift only that is causing you to be upset and not that it could imply a relationship
problem. It could be just the way we are reading them.