I am sure someone will have an opinion I can relate to about this topic...
I have brothers and a sister - we all have children and grandchildren. My sister has been given the cut direct by my brothers and myself - three years ago. It would take another thread or two to cover the tales of inappropriate behavior she has pulled.
For all of my sis & brother's children & grandchildren I have gifted something (money, gift card or gift item) for every birthday and Christmas. I have never missed a high school graduation gift and have gifted for every wedding and birth of a grandchild. I am not wealthy but I will stick a $20 bill in an envelope and make cold sandwiches for a week before I will miss out on doing the same thing for each and every one of my nieces and nephews. Our sister was very much the favored child in our family and everyone recognized it - my mother denied this to her dying day, even though my dad, I, my brothers and outsiders would make comments about it.
My sister is also a greedy, selfish, gimme pig, drama queen and special snowflake princess prima dona. (was there any part of that that I was not clear about?)
She has even gone as far as calling me to make sure I didn't forget a gift when one of her children was having a milestone event! Apparently, a cash gift (from our brother) was lost/stolen when her oldest daughter graduated from high school (taken off of the gift table at her home) and my sister called EVERYONE in our family - including my brother's teenaged children to complain about his slight. She expected him to put more money in another card and replace it, why she complained to his children is beyond me (other than to embarass my brother). My brother was furious and asked her what she hoped to accomplish telling everyone that he had not sent dear niece anything when Sis had seen him place the envelope on the table? It was her house and if she couldn't keep up with the gifts what on earth made her think he should replace it! She hung up on him and the matter was never discussed again. (that's our family, dysfunction at it's finest)
She never sent anything for either of my daughter's high school graduations and she sent nothing for both of my grandchildren's birth. Both of my daughter's were crushed! I have the youngest children in our family so she didn't skip any of my brothers' children - just mine.
I so, so wanted to have them call her and ask where their gifts were but did not do it! I flat out told them not to call her and mention anything about her lack of gifting - manners, manners darn it. Both of them have facebooked with her and nothing has ever been said. (they still maintain contact through FB, even though I hate it, I have not suggested they stay away from her)
Omigosh, she has posted on FB about her youngest daughter getting married and posted the address where to reach her (send gifts). This was a civil ceremony and apparently a BWW is still being planned
there has been no announcement other than a FB post about the marriage.
Sis specifically private messaged
my daughters to be sure that I got her address!
I know it would be etiquettely wrong eHellions - but please, please can I call her and ask who she thinks she is to demand a gift from myself or my children after she has completely ignored us? How about a long letter?
I know I should not engage but really when does it get to be my turn to throw the drama fit? Steam is coming out of my nose & ears!