BG: I work at a cinemaplex. I recently moved into a new place and have a lot of expenses coming up, so I am taking as many shifts as I can at work to get plenty of money up. I have put myself down to work pretty much every day, and I have told my manager to call me if she needs me to cover any extra shifts.
I have a really good friend, Helen, that I try to catch up with when I can. We were supposed to meet up recently but she got held up with a job interview and had to cancel. End BG.
Last night she messaged me on FB asking me if I was available sometime this week. This was my reply:
Hi Helen, I've hesitated on making plans is that I keep getting called into work on supposedly free days, and with the trip coming up it's hard for me to refuse any extra work. I know that I'm not rostered on Thursday and Sunday but there is a possibility that I will be asked to work either of those shifts. So if you would like to go out for breakfast either of these days I would love to catch up, the only thing is that I might have to cancel them. Otherwise we could wait until February.
Reading back over that, I'm really cringing now. I simply should have said - sorry this month won't work for me, let's try next month. Instead I've essentially said "hey now, I can make plans but I'll very likely flake out on them".
There has been no reply from her at all - even though she has made other fb posts recently and she is always quick to reply to me. So I'm pretty sure she has taken offense. My question is, should I apologise for my wording and if so, how. Or should I wait until she makes the first move?