To a great extent though, the bride doesn't get too much of a say in being pushed into the spotlight. I certainly didn't take that position willingly. My husband is a performer. I am more a producer. But other people (family, friends, vendors, etc) focused on bride, bride, bride. Sure to a certain extent you can push back and say "no, not me, not bride, us, couple" but its definitely an uphill battle. A winnable battle but not an effort to be dismissed.