My DS's are 10 and 8, are pretty big for their age and still love the playground. I needed to pick up DH from work and got there a little too early, however, there was a park about 2 blocks away. So I took them over there and told them to have fun until it was time to get Daddy. When we arrived there were several kids already there having a grand time. I parked myself in line of sight and played with the baby; keeping one eye on the boys.
My younger son Fin ran to the swings and waited patiently for one to get free. As soon as one did, he got on and started swinging. No sooner had he started then this little girl, probably about 5-6 years old, came storming up. She started cursing my son with language I would never use and would wash my boys mouths out with soap if they even used 1 of them. Fin tried to ignore her, but then she stood in front of the swing. Fin didn't want to hit her, so he got off and told her she had an ugly heart and an uglier mind. Then he stalked off to go play with his brother. The little girl stood there for a moment with her mouth open and then burst into tears. I saw her go running off toward another group of kids and decided that discretion was the better part of valor, called the boys and we left the park.
We talked a little bit about it; but I don't like bullies and at the same time have no intention of raising my boys to be doormats. I'm not sure that what Fin did was wrong; but thought I would put it out to you wise ehellions and see what you think. Is there a further lesson I can teach my boys for the next time this situation comes up?