I'm planning to have a party for my son in the summer, when he turns 3. We'll be in my hometown, where I grew up and where my parents and most of my close friends live. I don't live there anymore.
So, I will definitely be inviting my best friend, who is practically family at this point.
I had also wanted to invite someone else, let's call him Dan. Dan, BFF and I all went to the same high school. Dan and my BFF dated for quite a while in college, and were very serious. BFF was planning to marry him, however, Dan broke up with her, pretty much crushing her. That was years and years ago. Now BFF is happily married, and has a child of her own who will be 1 at the time of this party.
The reason I'm considering inviting Dan at all is because when my son was born, he reached out to me. My son was a preemie, and I posted a little about the circumstances on facebook when he was born. Dan has twins who were also preemies, and he talked to me about his experience. It was really helpful, and I appreciated that he took the time to talk to me, even though we really didn't keep in touch besides some facebook stuff.
So anyway, I'm having this party and I was going to invite some other people from high school. I thought it might be strange if I invited other people from high school, but not Dan. But, I don't know how BFF would feel about it. I don't really want to ask her, because I feel like she would feel obligated to say "sure!", when she doesn't really feel like it.
I see these as my options:
A) Ask BFF what she thinks about inviting Dan, and follow her lead.
B) Don't invite Dan, but invite the other high school friends I wanted to.
C) Don't invite any of the high school friends, and catch up with them separately.
D) Invite Dan, and just let BFF know.
I really don't want to do Option A, and I'm definitely not doing Option D.
Any other options I'm not seeing? Advice or suggestions?