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Re: Guests and Alcohol...or, Am I a Bad Host?
« Reply #45 on: January 15, 2013, 03:49:41 PM »
Honestly, I might give the real reason why you aren't hosting.  At some point you might be living somewhere else or they mught want to get together under different circumstances.  You won't be able to use that excuse but some of the same concerns will still be there.



Then you could say, if she asks why she can't stay with you: " Sis, quite frankly, I didn't think BIL even wanted to be here last time.  I thought we were going to have dinner together and go to Easter service. I made appetizers and a roast and not fish due to Good Friday, in deference to BIL's preferences. I told you all about the dinner plans but then he went out and bought McDonalds even though I made a roast just for him.  And then we went gun shopping and didn't go to church.  Nothing is wrong with BIL wanting to do that, but why come to my house if you don't want to spend time or even eat with us?  So if you are going to come to town, we can meet you at a restaurant of your choosing."

EDITED: I see you called her and said NO THANKS EVER.

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Re: Guests and Alcohol...or, Am I a Bad Host?
« Reply #46 on: January 15, 2013, 03:54:03 PM »
I think your voice mail message was perfect, OP. Clear, unambiguous, giving her nothing to argue about, yet polite.

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Re: Guests and Alcohol...or, Am I a Bad Host?
« Reply #47 on: January 15, 2013, 04:22:02 PM »
Good going mrkitty.  And I look forward to the Thanksgiving saga!

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Re: Guests and Alcohol...or, Am I a Bad Host?
« Reply #48 on: January 15, 2013, 10:31:58 PM »
Wow.  And I thought my family was bad.

Someone on a previous page suggested deleting all of your sister's emails without reading them.  I don't think that's a good idea.  At this point you need to know what she's planning. 

Read everything she sends.  If she calls let it go to voicemail, then listen to what she said.  It will give you a chance to prepare a response.  You don't need to reply to anything she says, just be prepared with a plan of your own. 

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Re: Guests and Alcohol...or, Am I a Bad Host?
« Reply #49 on: January 16, 2013, 02:22:09 AM »
good going Mrkitty!

<still sitting here with the popcorn, waiting for that Thanksgiving Blowout Extravaganza 2006TM >

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Re: Guests and Alcohol...or, Am I a Bad Host?
« Reply #50 on: January 16, 2013, 06:45:28 AM »
Okay...get out your popcorn and put on your seatbelt...the Great And Terrible Legendary Thanksgiving Blowout Extravaganza 2006 TM is now posted and available for your reading pleasure....in the Humor section.  :D Located here: http://www.etiquettehell.com/smf/index.php?topic=124274.0

Enjoy. The buffet of my familial shame awaits you!  ;D

PS - Sorry for the delay. This is quite longer than even I expected.
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Re: Guests and Alcohol...or, Am I a Bad Host?
« Reply #51 on: January 16, 2013, 09:46:00 AM »
Geez, are we cousins?

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Re: Guests and Alcohol...or, Am I a Bad Host?
« Reply #52 on: January 16, 2013, 02:26:24 PM »
Learn from past. Live in the present. Hope for the future.

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Re: Guests and Alcohol...or, Am I a Bad Host?
« Reply #53 on: January 16, 2013, 02:58:20 PM »
Has the thread about the blowout been deleted? I was halfway the story, but now I can't seem to find it.



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Re: Guests and Alcohol...or, Am I a Bad Host?
« Reply #54 on: January 16, 2013, 03:00:19 PM »
Has the thread about the blowout been deleted? I was halfway the story, but now I can't seem to find it.
me too! it seems to have disappeared.

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Re: Guests and Alcohol...or, Am I a Bad Host?
« Reply #55 on: January 16, 2013, 03:03:10 PM »
Has the thread about the blowout been deleted? I was halfway the story, but now I can't seem to find it.
me too! it seems to have disappeared.

Ahh, okay!  I thought it was just me and I was going crazy  ;D

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Re: Guests and Alcohol...or, Am I a Bad Host?
« Reply #56 on: January 16, 2013, 03:05:50 PM »
I can't find the thread. I was reading it and now it is gone.

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Re: Guests and Alcohol...or, Am I a Bad Host?
« Reply #57 on: January 16, 2013, 03:15:30 PM »
Nooooooo! I didn't even get to start!  :'(
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Re: Guests and Alcohol...or, Am I a Bad Host?
« Reply #58 on: January 16, 2013, 03:59:41 PM »
Nooooooo! I didn't even get to start!  :'(

Me either!

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Re: Guests and Alcohol...or, Am I a Bad Host?
« Reply #59 on: January 16, 2013, 09:00:12 PM »
It's back now.