I wasn't sure which topic to put this question in.
So, I'm planning a trip to my hometown in July. Yes, that's about 6 months away. But, it's going to require some planning since I'll be taking vacation time, will need to buy plane tickets, and my parents will also be using their vacation time. That's why we're talking about this now.
I'm planning my trip for early July because my best friend (BFF) will likely be having a first bday party for her daughter around that time. I have not been to hometown since her daughter was born, so haven't met her yet. But I would really love to be there to help celebrate her first bday, which is usually a big deal in our circles/culture.
Anyway, I don't know exactly which weekend she is planning to have the party. Would it be rude or pushy of me to ask her if she has any idea when she is having the party? While I'm in town, we'll be busy with a bunch of other plans, which my family and I are already setting up now, so I can't just hope that it's going to work out. First, I need to make sure that I'm going to be there the right weekend, and second, I would need to NOT make any other plans for the day of her party.
Here are my options as I see them:
A) Don't ask her about her plans, and just make my own plans. Guess at which weekend she is going to have the party, and leave that day free, hopefully I guess right.
B) Ask her if she's made any plans yet (which I highly doubt that she has, because it's 6 months away!).
C) Tell her what weeks I'm going to be in town, and what I have planned already - hopefully since this is so early she can work around my plans, if she wants to. I definitely wouldn't tell her to do that, just notify her when I'll be in town and my plans, and she can make her own conclusions.
I realize this is super early, but my mom needs to give her tentative vacation plans by the end of January, and I also need to plan my time off, although I don't have to actually notify my work this early. I also want to buy plane tickets early-ish, since this will be around a holiday (4th of July), and I've noticed that prices can go skyhigh during holidays.