Hi all, I've been away from posting for a while - hope everyone is well and enjoying 2013
Let me preface this by saying I know it's the thought that counts, and I'm grateful to receive anything at all. Just curious as to whether you Ehellions think honesty is the best policy? I suppose some of this is sort of a knee-jerk sad reaction that my own mother doesn't know or care what I like?
My mother and I live in different countries and have a strained relationship
; one in which I need to be very careful what I say or she gets offended and snarky very easily. Having said that, we do speak reasonably often, and she knows what hobbies I participate in and what I enjoy doing. She has a history of giving HORRID gifts on birthdays or Christmas. An example of one such gift was a dress which was not my taste, and was a size too small. She also made me try it on in front of company that we had over at Christmas, and it was too small
. It was very embarrassing. She snarked at me that the reason it didn't fit was that I didn't like it and therefore did not try hard enough to fit it, (if anyone was wondering, this was not the case) I am very sensitive about my weight and this upset me.
She consistently buys me jewellery which I don't wear; I'm just not normally a jewellery person unless I've chosen the piece of jewellery. I've spoken with my mother multiple times about the style of jewellery I like and pointed stuff out that I like to try and avoid pink pearl earrings, (
) but this doesn't work either.
Before Christmas I bought a new underwater camera, (I am an avid SCUBA diver - which she knows) and told her that if she wants to buy me a Christmas present this year, I would appreciate any sum of money she wanted to give me towards the camera, any time she liked. She agreed, and I left it there. I sent her some chocolate but never heard anything about my gift. I knew that she had bought a new house and was not bothered if she didn't get me a gift - a card would have sufficed. I tried to tell her that, but then she said she had sent me a present........
........I received yet another dress, not to my taste, too tight, and too hot for the climate where I live.....and more jewellery, which I don't like and I will never wear. I sent an email saying I had received the present and thanked her for it.
Now the problem is that she keeps asking if I liked the present. I bean dipped the first email she sent asking as I don't want to provoke an argument. But now she has sent another one, asking the same question. So my question is, should I tell her the truth? Or should I lie and continue to receive gifts which just get stashed to the back of my closet never to see the light of day again? Can I ask her to just send me a card? Or am I a horrible person?