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bopper

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Re: Ending a friendship when friend is ill
« Reply #45 on: January 22, 2013, 12:44:21 PM »
" I have been having health issues of my own so I wont be much of a support system for you ...and I won't call on you too much either given your own health issues.  If you don't hear from me right away it will be because I just don't have the energy. When I feel up to it I will contact you back."

TootsNYC

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Re: Ending a friendship when friend is ill
« Reply #46 on: January 22, 2013, 02:29:20 PM »
" I have been having health issues of my own so I wont be much of a support system for you ...and I won't call on you too much either given your own health issues.  If you don't hear from me right away it will be because I just don't have the energy. When I feel up to it I will contact you back."

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Winterlight

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Re: Ending a friendship when friend is ill
« Reply #47 on: January 22, 2013, 02:56:18 PM »
You aren't ending the friendship because she's ill, you're ending it because she's a leech and you don't like her. You don't owe her an endless sounding board.
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oceanus

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Re: Ending a friendship when friend is ill
« Reply #48 on: January 22, 2013, 05:10:38 PM »
This is the only part I don't like:
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When I feel up to it I will contact you back.
Why bother to say this? ??? - you know you don't want to and most likely you're not going to.

There is a big difference between ending a relationship and delaying/putting someone off with empty promises.  As much as I dislike the parasitic woman, there is no reason to give false hope.  AND - it leaves the door open and gives her a reason to periodically contact you "just to see if you're up to it". 

Ending it means exactly that.
« Last Edit: January 22, 2013, 05:14:29 PM by oceanus »