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Pandora

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Dear Prudence .... For those not invited, DSTD notices
« on: January 19, 2013, 11:50:46 PM »
http://www.slate.com/articles/life/dear_prudence/2013/01/dear_prudence_my_white_boyfriend_said_the_n_word.2.html  :o

 I hope this will not become a fad. But I can't help wondering .... if it does will it extend to other events? Wedding/baby showers, children's birthday parties, family get-togethers?  :o
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poundcake

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Re: Dear Prudence .... For those not invited, DSTD notices
« Reply #1 on: January 20, 2013, 01:20:35 AM »
Pandora, your comment about "I hope this will not become a fad" etc combined with the title of the article is quite special indeed!  >:D

On-topic, though, I think that DSTD cards/announcements are indicative of the most Bridezillaish of mentalities: that everyone else's life revolves around THE WEDDING.
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jeni

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Re: Dear Prudence .... For those not invited, DSTD notices
« Reply #2 on: January 20, 2013, 01:33:56 AM »
What a truly awful concept  :o
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LifeOnPluto

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Re: Dear Prudence .... For those not invited, DSTD notices
« Reply #3 on: January 20, 2013, 01:51:03 AM »
Truly horrible. If I ever received one of those, I'd be more than happy to stay away!
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NbyNW

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Re: Dear Prudence .... For those not invited, DSTD notices
« Reply #4 on: January 20, 2013, 01:57:28 AM »
This is unbelievable! I'll have to admit that, while I might be disappointed if a friend chose not to invite me to their wedding, if they went out of their way to inform me that I was not welcome I would probably be reassessing our friendship.
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magician5

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Re: Dear Prudence .... For those not invited, DSTD notices
« Reply #5 on: January 20, 2013, 04:04:43 AM »
Simple solution: send a response card politely saying "Thanks for the 'don't save the date' card. I wasn't planning to."
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laud_shy_girl

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Re: Dear Prudence .... For those not invited, DSTD notices
« Reply #6 on: January 20, 2013, 04:40:50 AM »
Does anyone else think this is a blatantly gimme tacktick.

"They are not invited but if I send a DSTD card, then they know when the wedding is and can send me a gift."

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auntmeegs

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Re: Dear Prudence .... For those not invited, DSTD notices
« Reply #7 on: January 20, 2013, 07:45:31 AM »
Quote from: magician5 on January 20, 2013, 04:04:43 AM
Simple solution: send a response card politely saying "Thanks for the 'don't save the date' card. I wasn't planning to."

LIKE  ;D
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Momiitz

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Re: Dear Prudence .... For those not invited, DSTD notices
« Reply #8 on: January 20, 2013, 08:20:37 AM »
The link no longer works.
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Klein Bottle

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Re: Dear Prudence .... For those not invited, DSTD notices
« Reply #9 on: January 20, 2013, 08:38:38 AM »
What a positively awful trend!  I agree that it seems to be part and parcel of the Bridezilla Entitlement Complex, in that everyone else's life is supposed to revolve around The Wedding Of The Century.    ::)
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QueenofAllThings

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Re: Dear Prudence .... For those not invited, DSTD notices
« Reply #10 on: January 20, 2013, 09:23:46 AM »
The most offensive part is that not only are you not invited, but that you get the 'joy' of doing chores with the bride. In other words "You don't make the cut, but you are good enough to act as staff.  You are blessed!"

Seriously, where do these brides one from? Who raised them? Is ANYONE that myopic?!?  :o
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Thipu1

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Re: Dear Prudence .... For those not invited, DSTD notices
« Reply #11 on: January 20, 2013, 09:39:59 AM »
I think Prudie answered this one pretty well.  It's an awful idea and the suggestion of 'throwing a bone' to the uninvited by asking them to help with the planning is just rubbing salt into the wound. 
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Kimberami

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Re: Dear Prudence .... For those not invited, DSTD notices
« Reply #12 on: January 20, 2013, 09:46:44 AM »
I wonder how many of these cards are sent with a  gift registry? 
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doodlemor

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Re: Dear Prudence .... For those not invited, DSTD notices
« Reply #13 on: January 20, 2013, 10:38:02 AM »
Such an offensive idea!   

I wonder if someone in the "wedding industrial complex" thought this up, to sell more cards.  Beware of this group.

Perhaps the things could be made even more expensive, if they were turned into musical cards that played "Nah - nah - nah - nah - nah - nah when opened.
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Amava

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Re: Dear Prudence .... For those not invited, DSTD notices
« Reply #14 on: January 20, 2013, 11:28:25 AM »
I think this would work as a reply to a card that says "You are sadly not invited to my wedding."

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