I'm finally back in my room after being out on the couch due to a ceiling leak, and I'm really enjoying the privacy! What I don't enjoy is a new habit my mother seems to have picked up. She'll knock on my door, and without waiting for an answer she'll try the knob. The first time she did this, I hadn't locked my door. I was just at my desk typing something up, but that isn't the point. Company was over, and what if I'd been getting changed? There's a clear view of my room from the end of the hallway! I thought it was understood that my room was my space, even if it's in her house. After that, I kept my door locked, which was my usual habit anyway.
I asked her if she could please wait until I answer, and not just walk in. Nothing has come of it, except that she asked me the question she had come to ask me as if I hadn't spoken. I just don't like my wish for privacy and respect being blatantly ignored.
I don't know if this matters, but I'm 30 and still living at home because the job market is pretty bad where I am. I know that people here look down on "freeloaders", and believe me, if I could find work I would at the very least pay rent...and move out if I made enough. I hate being dependent at 30, I'm ashamed of it. I know that I am lucky, and I'm grateful.
Is there anything I can say that I haven't already said, short of telling her to get out? (That doesn't work either, and usually gets, "Well, you don't have to be nasty!" for my troubles.)