When I'm working on my computer, cooking, cleaning, etc., sometimes I will quietly mutter to myself if something annoys me. Example, if a program is slow to load on my computer, I may very quietly say something to myself or just sigh heavily. Or, I'm loading the dishwasher and having trouble getting something to fit in right.
I have two people (roommate and MIL) in my life who will never let me mutter to myself without asking me what's wrong. It drives me crazy.
Obviously a slow computer is annoying, but nothing is "wrong" and I don't need anyone's help or support.
I feel like I can't quietly vocalize to myself without being questioned. It confuses me, because when my roommate mutters to herself while on her computer, I don't care or respond. I figure if she wants help with something, she'll ask - otherwise whatever she's doing is none of my business.
I think "muttering" is a fairly common practice, but I feel like I need to make a concentrated effort to stop so I can avoid the "What?", "What's wrong?", "What's going on?", What did you say?" responses when I grumble because my checkbook is off by 3 cents.
Is the muttering rude, or am I just dealing with two people who don't "get" that me making sounds with my mouth doesn't necessarily mean I need/want their help with something?