Recently there was a family wedding that I was not invited to attend even though bf and I have been a couple for almost 4 years and we live together. They did, however, invite his ex-wife. BF asked about it and they said they intended to invite me but forgot.
What happened after this? Did both of you go? Just him? What about the ex?
I'm not sure how much of this is etiquette vs relationship
advice, but if all your BF did was ask about it, he needs to up his game. This was a direct slam on you personally, and it's not your job to address it - it's his.
On the event where your kids weren't invited, that doesn't bother me quite as much, because your kids aren't stepkids to them. They're his gf's children. It would have been polite to include them, but I don't think it's wrong not to.
2. There is a 20 year age gap between bf and myself and sometimes when in public, people make wrong assumptions about our relationship
. Should I correct these assumptions? [/quote]
No, it sounds like a waste of time. It doesn't matter what mouthy strangers think.