I'm pretty steamed right now.
Mr K bought several large cases of a particular children's snack that normally sell for $5 a box. The cases contain 5 boxes. We got them for $5 a case. Awesome price.
Naturally, Mr K bought too many cases, as he is prone to doing.
The cases expire in a few months and LK doesn't eat them that much (I do, but I probably shouldn't).
Anyway, I posted 2 extra cases on my local Mom2Mom facebook group for $5 a case, firm. Basically, just asking what I paid for them.
I had some interest at first, but then someone asked where I got them from. I told her where and what the "normal" price is and that I'm just asking what I paid for them.
But then someone else posted that they sell for $3 a case, which isn't what I paid for them. Now everyone has lost interest.
I found that to be intolerably rude of her! I don't go on to her postings and say "Hey you're asking $x above what is a normal sale price for this item." That's just rude. At least, I think it's rude.
Is it rude? Or am I being too sensitive?
I did reply back that "They aren't always available and they are rarely that low in price, though. Normally they are $5 a box in the grocery stores and the cases contain 5 boxes. I haven't seen them available for less than $9 in a little while. Actually, I haven't seen them at all for a little while. Anyway, I am willing to meet anyone part way if they don't want to or can't drive to where I am."
I don't think she was rude either. I know it seems on the surface that the loss of interest is directly related to the other poster giving a lower price, but it's possible that there are many other reasons including your response, which sounded a little defensive instead of persuasive: paying full retail price on top of having to pay for shipping or take time to pick up (even half way); their children also won't eat it either before it expires; concerns about buying food items from strangers over the internet; they did their homework and in their area it really is less expensive...
I think your selling error was telling what you paid for the item and letting it be known that you aren't really willing to negotiate. I usually assume that someone trying to get rid of an item would rather get some of their money back instead of nothing and be willing to negotiate. Those interested would probably have stayed interested if you had used your response as a opening to negotiate, "I'm willing to sell them at 4.00 if buyer pays the shipping or can pick up in the next 3 days." or "I think my price is fair but I'm willing to split up the cases if no one will need that much."
Actually, I let that be known in the original post. I stated the price as "firm". I did a little more research, and it turns out that the normal cost of one of these cases is $15. A normal case of one box inside the case is $3-$5 depending on the store.
It's generally a very congenial group. Sometimes posters will put things up for sale that are really overpriced (ie, asking the original cost of something that is used, like $60 for a used exersaucer when that is the price of the same one brand new in box, or $300 for a used carseat). Even then, I've never seen them called out for it. Which is why I felt really taken aback.
After reading other posts, I've decided that she wasn't really rude after all. She took an approach that is rarely (if ever) seen in this group, but that doesn't make it rude, I guess. I'm still a little irked over it.
I just want to clarify one thing, though. What she did is not usually "done". I've never seen it done. Not even when someone wants full price for an item. That's why it struck me as rude.
To me, what she did would be like walking up to a vendors booth at a Mom2Mom sale and telling the customers right in front of the person selling that the person selling is selling their items higher than someone else.
Maybe it's not technically rude, but it still doesn't sit right with me. You can say it in private (private messaging is totally an option - the woman could have send a pm to the woman who wanted to know where you get the cases), but saying it right there in front of the person offering the item just seems.... really weird and wrong. Generally speaking, even haggling is done off-board. If someone is interested in your item and wants to talk you down, it's done by private message.
I understand why you are upset, but I don't think it's rude.
My guess is that this woman believes that these items sell for $3/case. She may be wrong (or mistaken for the per box price), but assumming she thinks the price is lower, then I don't think it's rude to point out that they people can get them cheaper. I'm thinking she may have thought you were trying to sell them for more money than others can get them and make some kind of profit and she was 'warning' the others.
I don't think it would have been out of line to reply with something like "Where have you seen them for $3/case? In the grocery stores around here, they are normally $5/box, so getting them for $5/case is a great deal. It would be helpful to know where these are cheaper as my DD loves them."
This makes it clear that you are not intentionally posting something for more than they normally sell for, and asks the woman to be specific in her claims without sounding defensive. And I do think that everyone should do their own research.
Now, if she were posting on your listing to sell her own cases of snacks or was purposely posting false information to dissuade peope from buying your snacks, it would be different. But do you think that is what she was doing?
I don't know what her motivation was.
Someone asked me *where* I got the item. I replied where and what the "normal" price that I've seen them at is. Person (let's pretend that's her name to make it easier) replied with the SAME where but said that she sees them for a lower price. I've seen them at that price precisely one time. I didn't buy them at that price because we'd just gotten a bunch of boxes at the previous higher-but-still-stupid-cheap price. I've never seen them that low before or since. That was why I replied as I did that they "are rarely that low in price and aren't even always available."
I figured the person asking where I got the cases from hadn't seen them at the store I got them from because they have not been available in a while.
I should probably also mention that I feel really weird about people talking really loudly in a store about the prices and how X store has a certain item for a cheaper price. Maybe not rude, but still feels off to me.