If this has been said before and I missed it, then I apologize. But what hit me is: Bessie singles out Weeble-wobble and her DH as her close, close friends, and she doesn't do it to any one else?
Is Bessie a serial crush? One at a time, she hits on a couple. The wife is her bestie, and the husband is her honey, and they just love each other.
Maybe, when other people are eyeing you, they are really thinking, "Oh, it's their turn now."
What I would do is tell the truth: Bessie is an acquaintance. Have you known her long?