The only glitch was that, despite telling guests that the table cake cutting would not occur until after the wedding cake cutting (and holding back the cake servers from the tables until right before the wedding cake cutting), there was one table that decided to do it anyway (and it was a table full of four middle-aged to senior adults -- no children poked the cakes; the CHILDREN were perfectly behaved). Fortunately, I was too busy to care that much and moved on quickly (there was nothing I could do at that point, but I will admit that the behavior left me with a not-so-good first impression since I knew none of these guests).
Honestly? I think that it's their centerpiece and their cake--if they wanted to get started early, I'm not quite sure why it's that important.
I suppose it affects the ambience in the room as a whole, but I just don't think it's a big deal.
Uh, no, it's not. Not a big deal to you, but it wasn't your wedding reception and if you read/reread one of my posts on the first page, I forgot about it after I walked away from the table and hadn't thought about it again until a few days after my wedding (mentioning because it didn't color my experience for the rest of my reception).
Perhaps a small sign next to each cake stating that "cake servers will be delivered during the cake cutting ceremony." It would be a signal that guests were being asked to wait but using positive language.
I personally would not have cut the cake unless told to do so. It still is a centerpiece. Guests are often urged to take a centerpiece-sometimes it is awarded as a prize. Sometimes they are not given out. They belong to the HC. Even if it was up for grabs I would wait until after the cake cutting as that signals the (beginning of the) end of the reception.
This, which the other 70+ guests understood.
I seriously considered using small signs at the tables, but I thought about this forum and figured it would be too controlling and a little off-putting to the guests according to things I've read here in the past about how much "direction" to give the guests (and, again, given it was *one* guest who did this, I'm glad I opted against the signs -- I figured the info on the FB page and website would be sufficient...which it was for everyone else). Overall, both wedding and reception were pretty casual in their execution, and I tried to maintain that sort of atmosphere so everyone would have a good time. Over two months later, and we are still getting compliments about the cake idea (that's how much people loved it).