My mother prides herself in her honesty and straightforwardness: I've often been on the receiving end of this and though these characteristics are supposed to be positive ones, I'm starting to think she tends to cross from "direct" to "disrespectful", especially when I'm concerned.
The last incident, which also started this whole line of thought, happened last week.
I'm 25 years old and looking for a job: I applied to Company Mom Works For and I didn't fill one part of my application form as well as I should have.
Mom: By the way, I talked to a couple of people I know in HR: they said you are an idiot, you shouldn't have written it so-and-so but this-way-and-that.
This is far from the first time she snaps at me and calls me stupid after I made a mistake: in fact, she has been doing it for as long as I can remember.
(And yes, I realize that maybe she's just repeating what the HR people said, but did she have to? I mean, if somebody did call your child stupid, would you go and tell him/her?)
On the one hand, she is calling me names and it hurts. On the other hand, it's just the way she is with everybody, not just me.
I'm thinking about confronting her, but I'm not sure it would work: in the past, when I pointed out other hurtful things she did/said, she apologized but also said I ought to grow a thicker skin and learn to shrug it off. She thinks I depend too much on outside validation for my sense of self and I know she dislikes it.
So...I don't know what to do. To be honest, I'm not even sure if I should do something or I'm just blowing things out of proportion.
Sorry if this is confusing - as you probably noticed, I'm pretty confused myself.