Absolutely correct, thanks for the support and the understanding. If I'm wrong I want to grow. If i'm right and a compromise cant be made then I guess we part.
But really, the why doesn't matter, does it? It's how her friendships work and you're saying you're not interested in these friendships and this part of her life.
She's saying, quite clearly, what she expects and who she is.
You're saying, quite clearly, that that's unacceptable.
Re the bolded: no, he isn't.
As far as I can see, he is looking to educate himself on the matter (hence why he asked for outsiders' opinions) and to work out whether he can come to terms with it if it is, indeed, much more normal than he thought.
The thing is, it isn't NECESSARILY wrong.
I mean, some people want dogs, some people want cats, some people want both.
One isn't wrong or right, they're just different.
But they are compatibility things.
One indifferent person can live w/ someone who is a 'pro dog' or 'pro cat' person.
But one rabidly 'pro dog/anti cat' person is going to have a lifelong comparability problem (even if they 'give in' and compromise, the fundamental difference remains and the resentment is generally, IME, permanent) with a rabidly 'pro cat/anti dog' person.*edited because autocorrect sucks. And it didn't correct my misspelling of autocorrect*