I have a personal problem: I will eat food if it is put in front of me. If I don't want to eat the food I have to actively tell myself not to do so, otherwise I'll just keep eating it. Even long
after I'm full. I really only have problems with it in restaurants when the food isn't cleared away quickly. I take full responsibility for my actions and am not blaming anyone else for them.BG2:
I go out with my family to eat at least once a week. We are part of a group together and while we can eat there, we cannot bring in our own food. If we didn't eat there we'd have to eat really early or really late. So we eat there.THE QUESTION:
My grandmother had weight-loss surgery about a year ago. I am running across a problem that started out as an annoyance and is now something that I am really frustrated about. It wasn't always a problem, but it has recently cropped up.
Since her surgery she can't eat as much she will eat what she can and then have 75% or more of her food left. She'll then ask if her husband wants it. He says no. So she'll ask me, then my mom. We'll say no. And then every single time when I get up (as part of the activity) I return to find her plate in front of my seat or between my mother and me. Secretly I wonder if she doesn't have the same problem as I do and is solving it by passing the food off.
Nevertheless, it is starting to make me angry. I don't want her food but she keeps giving it to me. And if I'm not careful, I eat it. And then I get mad at myself for eating it. And I think it makes her think that I actually did want it (though I've told her about my problem before).
I'd like to stop this. But I don't know what course of action to take. Here is what I'm considering, and what I'd like your input on:
- When I find the food in front of me, just take it to the trash can the next time I get up
- Thanking her, telling her I don't want it, and placing it back in front of her
- Not thanking her and telling her that I'd appreciate it if she stopped doing that
I'm leaning towards number 1, as it seems to be the least confrontational. But I don't want to have fault in my actions if anyone says anything (which I'm sure someone will - probably mom, wanting to know why I was so mean). So I would appreciate your input on the matter.