This isn't a question, but a thank you. As I've posted before, I made the decision to move back into my parents' house. My parents can be described as toxic or crazy, or both. Between the advise and support on the forums, I've been able to manage my own behavior in such a way that things don't get as out of hand as they used to. My mother has noticed a certain peace in my dealings with her and my father. She told me today how much she's enjoying the "new you" and asked how I managed interactions with my father so peacefully.
This discussion came about after she'd gotten unreasonably upset over a phone call with the adult child of one of my cousins. My second cousin was basically asking my mother to un-friend my cousin's mother-in-law. I advised her to text or call her back and tell her something to the effect of "I've given your request some thought, and I'm sorry, but I'm afraid that won't be possible." I told her not to explain herself in any manner and introduced the concept of JADE-ing, and told her not to do it. My mom sent the text and that was that. She's so much happier. After that, she got me into a discussion about what kind of other stuff I've learned on this site. She got all thoughtful and got a look on her face that made her realize that this was where I'd learned how to manage my own behavior to defuse some of the toxicity. After that discussion, I'm really hopeful that she'll continue to be receptive to the things we discuss here, and maybe, just maybe, she can change her toxic ways.
Today was just one day, but I think we may have had a watershed moment! I'm keeping my fingers crossed that we can continue to grow and heal our relationship
So, to all of you ehellions, I wanted to send out a great deal of thanks. And a slice of virtual cheesecake.