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Men addressing women as "dude" - thoughts?

Duu-uude! (Fine.)
87 (48.9%)
DUDE. Just -- DUDE. (Not fine.)
20 (11.2%)
Dude? Okay.... dude....(It depends)
67 (37.6%)
I'm a dude
4 (2.2%)

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Morty'sCleaningLady

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Re: Dude, is this rude?
« Reply #60 on: February 01, 2013, 12:35:17 PM »
I don't think it's a nice term for a woman.  If you don't remember her name, just don't use a lead in.  Just say "Please, pass the chips" or "Did you think the dancing Clydesdale was cute?"
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TootsNYC

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Re: Dude, is this rude?
« Reply #61 on: February 01, 2013, 01:07:24 PM »
Actually, I think it's an incredibly casual sort of address, and it's got a cheeky feel to it.

Because of that cheeky vibe, I wouldn't use it to a guy or gal just to say "pass the chips."

I'd say, "Dude, you really thought that was a great pass?"
or I'd say, "Dude! Way to go!"

But I would never say, "Dude, pass the chips" unless I'd asked him 3 times and he hadn't heard me or had gotten sidetracked.

Julian

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Re: Dude, is this rude?
« Reply #62 on: February 01, 2013, 03:48:50 PM »
Hey Dude, don't call me Dude! 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NbLhHtaVIO4

 ;D  Hey, someone had to say it!

Aussie here, so dude isn't common.  But it wouldn't bug me in the slightest.  It's no worse than 'mate' or similar. 

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We'd watch the lightning crack over canefields
Laugh and think, this is Australia.

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Sharnita

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Re: Dude, is this rude?
« Reply #63 on: February 02, 2013, 09:51:10 AM »
I think Wikipedia does a fairly good job of covering th word as I understand it. The fact that it originates from Americna English kind of makes our usage a bit different that other English speakers, I think.  It also mentions it can include both gendes but frequently is used to indicate males.  Finally, there are more than one usage/meaning.

For that reason it doesn't particularly offend me.