CRUD MONKEYS!, is Mel my special snowflake sister?
Mel does get it - that's why she followed up with a phone call. Lara is the one who doesn't get it, Mel is a very, very, special snowflake and Lara should make EVERY effort to please her. Red flag to the BF - Bridezilla warning.
Lara should grow a spine she is going to need one if she stays friends with Mel.