So Lara has been reading the forum as a guest (I sent her the link to this post) and feels better that her reaction/way of saying "no" didn't deserve Mel's temper tantrum. Mel has called a few more times with no voicemails, Lara is ignoring her for now. I encouraged her to ignore her for the foreseeable future. I'll let y'all know if anything else etiquette-ly interesting happens.