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A divorce etiquette question

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johelenc1:
I think until someone moves out of the house, family members should continue to invite everyone.   I knew someone once who was "separated" under the same roof - mostly because they didn't have any money to move out.  It was 20 years ago.  They are still married.

sparksals:
There are children involved.   How would they feel if Dad was excluded when they don't know the family situation?  It doesn't matter if the family has been given heads up or not.  The kids matter most.  It sounds like this is why they are putting on the facade. 

Sharnita:

--- Quote from: sparksals on February 05, 2013, 10:45:03 PM ---There are children involved.   How would they feel if Dad was excluded when they don't know the family situation?  It doesn't matter if the family has been given heads up or not.  The kids matter most.  It sounds like this is why they are putting on the facade.

--- End quote ---

If there really is tension in the home they might feel relieved not having to pretend in front of the entire extended family that everything is hunkydorey.  Ideally the mom would not have told the family the situation was y if she wanted everyone to carry on as if it was x.  That is unfair to everyone else. 

sparksals:
So everyone else is more important than the kids.  Gotcha.

Sharnita:

--- Quote from: sparksals on February 05, 2013, 10:52:25 PM ---So everyone else is more important than the kids.  Gotcha.

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Never said that.  If the parents decide the best way to take care of the kids is to pretend the situation is X then why tell the rest of the family it is Y only to then ask them to then carry on as if it is X.  If they want the family to carry on as if it is X, why on earth wouldn't they just let the rest of the family believe it was X?

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