Thanks for the ideas.
Last night, I didn't have a lot of time to post here. I didn't give a whole lot of details about the situation, so for the most part I didn't say what I've already tried. Unfortunately, I've tried a lot of what was suggested, and it went right over her head.
1. I said upfront when she asked me that I could only be a proofreader
, because in the past I ended up doing this on a smaller scale. I've told her in the past, "I'll look at what you've already written, but you have to write it yourself." And I've gotten this in response, "._." along with chilly and stilted conversations for a few days after that. This time, I resolved not to be in that position again, and this time she said, "Okay" easily enough. Then she proceeded to act as if I hadn't spoken, and I'm partially responsible because I caved and went back on what I said.
2. I've told her when I was and wasn't available, and I've told her when I was working on something else at the moment. She waits until I am
available, and continues with her questions.
3. I've tried turning her questions back on her, "What do you
think should happen?" or saying, "That's up to you." and she'll say, "I don't know, that's why I need help."
I'm just running out of things to tell her, short of "I don't want
to." And I'll admit I was a little miffed when she didn't even include an Author's Note with "Thanks for your help". I don't want to make it sound like I'm out to get credit, but when someone has helped me with a project in the past or let me borrow their character for a bit, I've always given them a shout-out.
Anyway, these are all good ideas, but unfortunately they don't seem to be working. I think I might just have to start repeating myself, and saying, "I'll look at what you've got typed up, if you have something, but you'll have to come up with the material yourself." She'll be cold, and I feel bad about it, but I don't see any other way to handle it.
Thanks again. At least now I don't feel so unreasonable in saying no.