Was she drunk?
Not that that would excuse her behavior but she sounds like one of those people that gets belligerent when she's had a few too many.
Nope, stone cold sober. She doesn't really drink, actually, which is a good thing, as she has no filter while sober, I can't even imagine her drunk.
I agree with PPs 3 & 5 would each, alone, be enough on their own to ask her to leave!
You mentioned that this was a couple of years ago - what did you do? Did ever invite her to anything again?
No, I haven't. She attended a join graduation party for me and a friend, that was at friend's house and she was fine. I haven't had them here since, though and honestly, the next oppertunity would be the low-key BBQ we plan to introduce our friends to our second son, but obviously, I'd be nursing again and I'm not sure I want to deal with that.
2 and 4 are very typical of Nora, as she has no social filter, really. I don't think she is aware that either of those things (speaking about events where people present aren't invited, helping yourself to left overs after what is basically a pot luck) aren't ok. As for 3, Nora has a strange hatred for breasts. She has commented multiple times that they freak her out, she finds bikinis and low cut tops "gross" as well. I definitely didn't appreciate her calling me nursing my son "gross" though. 1 is more of her being clueless (and the least serious of her offenses). But 5 really upset me. As I said Nora has met my mother twice. Now, she'd probably heard some of the more extreme stories of my mom and my mom dislikes Nick, which I know she is aware of, but it was still completely out of line.
Just curious though, how did the other couple(s?) who actually WERE going to be invited to her upcoming birthday party react to her talking about it at your house?
They were uncomfortable, my friend Cara is the one who kept trying to change the subject (her birthday party was also a pot luck, btw, which is how the subject came up, she was telling Cara to make the same dish she'd made for Turkey Day).