So you don't mind if they call you when they plan on meeting somewhere but then you say it's just for emergencies?
Honestly, IMO, you are giving your friends mixed signals and then getting upset/annoyed when they don't follow the "only for emergency" plan.
I respectfully disagree. If they are calling because the plan has to change because of an unforeseen circumstance, then it's appreciated. Otherwise, I'd be waiting unnecessarily and wondering where on earth they are.
I do think this is a matter of differing definitions.
Chances are, most would send a quick text in the example you gave above.. Your method would require an additional step for them... they text everyone else and call you? They may not think to do that, so you are at square one again.
If you don't want to text or receive them, that is fine. You cannot expect people to change their preferred method. So you just may be sitting waiting at Restaurant B because you didn't check for the text that Restaurant A is now the location.
I really have to wonder at this point if I am just plain miscommunicating. I feel like I am not being understood!
What you're describing is not at all what I am getting upset with. What you're describing also doesn't happen in my circle. Changing to Restaurant B without actually receiving confirmation
from everyone in the group would really not happen in my circle of friends. Never has happened in the past. It's also absolutely not at all what I'm talking about!! In any case, if I am out, my phone is with me and I would see/hear/receive a text. I wouldn't get an email, so this example does not correlate to what is happening with my friends texting me.
How about instead of call it emergency use, we call it "urgent use". My phone is for urgent use. Getting a text about a change of plans is not at all my complaint.
My complaint is solely getting texts on my cellphone that is not meant for that use about last minute plans (new plans, not
plan changes) when it's late at night and I am home and my cellphone is away (or, prior to this thread, was
away). I have asked my friends not to do this. It still happens.
It's even more frustrating when I know for a fact that they are also at home and could just as easily email me or contact me by any other more reliable means.